Why dwell on the past? If you know something isn't going to happen at all, literally, not at all... why do we keep trying? why don't we just give up? why can't we just get over it? Well, it's just who we are, human. We constantly live in the past and refuse to move forward and let things go. It's one of the hardest things in life. To accept something for as it is. To let things go and move on; trying so hard not to hold onto the past. But we have to. As cliché as this sound, you really have no choice unless you want to be stuck in the past forever. It's one thing to look back and reminicse but, it's another thing to actually live in the past and try to make something happen, that won't actually happen. Moving forward is all we can do honestly. No matter how much things hurt, no matter how much you don't want to, no matter how wrong things feel. Letting go of something that you know won't end up right in the long run, letting go of something that is holding you back...seems so painful and difficult , but it is possible. The future, it's there. Waiting for you. Waiting for you to move forward. Waiting for you to push through and stay strong. Waiting for you to break down the barriers that are stopping you from being you, stopping you from living life, stopping you for living the NOW. Problems may come and go, and the multitude of pain it causes you will vary, but at the end of the day...in reality...you can make it. Refuse all you want, don't let go, stay stuck in the past, but let me tell you.. you'll be unhappy. You'll miss out on other opportunities. You'll maybe even change. Don't let one thing bring you down. Fight the struggles. Fight the pain. Fight the voice in your head that isn't letting you move forward. Live the now, live for the future. There's no turning back. No rewinding time. Things happen for a reason, and all we can do is accept it.
“Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.”
Thursday, July 3, 2014
Parents are key to success
*old post*
This is about to be a long post, bear with me. BUT this is a reality check for seniors.
So yes, we have approximately 3 more months till we graduate, till we're out of high school. 3 more months to make the best of our senior year. 3 more months to finish strong. 3 more months to make the most memories with those that you may or may not see in the future. 3 more months of having your hand held. You are about to enter a stage of independence. Self discovery. You will be on your own, facing the world. You will not be guided on what to study or what the homework is anymore. Things will never be the same. Realistically, wherever you go for college, you will face a reality check, and realize that procrastinating and bullshitting your way through things won't work anymore.
But, did you ever realize the impact that your graduation will have on those around you? You will departing from your friends. You won't see the same people everyday anymore. You won't have the comfort of knowing the people in your class. You won't have the same class times as your friends. You have to start fresh. Did you ever think about your parents? I know a lot of us are on "autopilot" till the end of the school year. There's senioritis and basically we all have that mentally that "I just want to graduate and get out of here". We all think that, we all wanna graduate, we all think we're ready to take on college head on. But, your parents. They're not going to college with you (lol well duh), but seriously. Your parents won't be there as much anymore, especially if you are going to be away from home, especially if you will be dorming. They won't be there to cook for you, to help you with laundry, to take you to the doctors, to put you in check when your grades are bad, to be there if you need anything, etc. Okay, maybe everyone has a different lifestyle, because some people actually aren't as dependent on their parents, as I may be, and they already do a lot of this on your own. If that's the case, congrats to you for already being one step ahead of everyone. I mean, in my case, in my perspective, my parents do so much to me and are my #1 support system.
As seniors we want to "live it up" "make the best of senior year" and really want to spend as much time with everyone before we all separate by going out and just "yoloing". Am I right? We end up going home late, and it's almost if we're never home. It's almost as if our parents never see us anymore... as if we went off to college already... I'm sure we don't realize it, but it's better late then never. Realize it NOW. Your parents have been there for you for so so so many years, I know there are varying situations, but your parents gave you life. They have raised you, taken care of you, comforted you, fed you, put a roof over your head, etc. But now, as our senior year comes to a close, that won't be there for you anymore. Yes, they'll still be there of course, but not everyday, not every week, not every month. We are about to reach a turning point --> entering "adulthood". I think you get my point. What I'm here to say is that, we need to take a step back and really appreciate our parents. We need to realize that senior year isn't all about going out, having fun, partying, etc. etc. We have these last few months to cherish it with the ones who have legitimately been there from day 1 and have not left our sides. Whether this means spending more time with our parents, being better sons/daughters, going home earlier, taking that extra mile to clean the house, etc. WE NEED TO STEP IT UP. We need to give our parents out 110% appreciation every day till the end of graduation. Our parents love, care, provide, and definitely miss us even if we're gone for a day...imagine when it's months? Breaks seem long, but not long enough. SHOW YOUR PARENTS YOUR APPRECIATION, HOW THANKFUL YOU ARE FOR THEM. Do something nice for them as often as possible. Give them a reason to not nag at you and give them a reason to stop always being on your case about things. Spend every moment you can with them, because in a couple of months, you won't have that time anymore. DON'T WASTE TIME. College is coming, senior year is coming to a close, and if you haven't already, start stepping it up to be a better son/daughter and really show your parents the love, respect, and appreciation that they truly deserve.
This is about to be a long post, bear with me. BUT this is a reality check for seniors.
So yes, we have approximately 3 more months till we graduate, till we're out of high school. 3 more months to make the best of our senior year. 3 more months to finish strong. 3 more months to make the most memories with those that you may or may not see in the future. 3 more months of having your hand held. You are about to enter a stage of independence. Self discovery. You will be on your own, facing the world. You will not be guided on what to study or what the homework is anymore. Things will never be the same. Realistically, wherever you go for college, you will face a reality check, and realize that procrastinating and bullshitting your way through things won't work anymore.
But, did you ever realize the impact that your graduation will have on those around you? You will departing from your friends. You won't see the same people everyday anymore. You won't have the comfort of knowing the people in your class. You won't have the same class times as your friends. You have to start fresh. Did you ever think about your parents? I know a lot of us are on "autopilot" till the end of the school year. There's senioritis and basically we all have that mentally that "I just want to graduate and get out of here". We all think that, we all wanna graduate, we all think we're ready to take on college head on. But, your parents. They're not going to college with you (lol well duh), but seriously. Your parents won't be there as much anymore, especially if you are going to be away from home, especially if you will be dorming. They won't be there to cook for you, to help you with laundry, to take you to the doctors, to put you in check when your grades are bad, to be there if you need anything, etc. Okay, maybe everyone has a different lifestyle, because some people actually aren't as dependent on their parents, as I may be, and they already do a lot of this on your own. If that's the case, congrats to you for already being one step ahead of everyone. I mean, in my case, in my perspective, my parents do so much to me and are my #1 support system.
As seniors we want to "live it up" "make the best of senior year" and really want to spend as much time with everyone before we all separate by going out and just "yoloing". Am I right? We end up going home late, and it's almost if we're never home. It's almost as if our parents never see us anymore... as if we went off to college already... I'm sure we don't realize it, but it's better late then never. Realize it NOW. Your parents have been there for you for so so so many years, I know there are varying situations, but your parents gave you life. They have raised you, taken care of you, comforted you, fed you, put a roof over your head, etc. But now, as our senior year comes to a close, that won't be there for you anymore. Yes, they'll still be there of course, but not everyday, not every week, not every month. We are about to reach a turning point --> entering "adulthood". I think you get my point. What I'm here to say is that, we need to take a step back and really appreciate our parents. We need to realize that senior year isn't all about going out, having fun, partying, etc. etc. We have these last few months to cherish it with the ones who have legitimately been there from day 1 and have not left our sides. Whether this means spending more time with our parents, being better sons/daughters, going home earlier, taking that extra mile to clean the house, etc. WE NEED TO STEP IT UP. We need to give our parents out 110% appreciation every day till the end of graduation. Our parents love, care, provide, and definitely miss us even if we're gone for a day...imagine when it's months? Breaks seem long, but not long enough. SHOW YOUR PARENTS YOUR APPRECIATION, HOW THANKFUL YOU ARE FOR THEM. Do something nice for them as often as possible. Give them a reason to not nag at you and give them a reason to stop always being on your case about things. Spend every moment you can with them, because in a couple of months, you won't have that time anymore. DON'T WASTE TIME. College is coming, senior year is coming to a close, and if you haven't already, start stepping it up to be a better son/daughter and really show your parents the love, respect, and appreciation that they truly deserve.
Reflection on college acceptances/rejections
Today i didnt get into my dream school, UC Berkeley.
Well you know what, here's some hopefully motivation for everyone else.
So fucking what. What? I said it. I know its hard to believe ANYONE that says "your college doesnt define you & what you're capable of, etc". Yeah, they're right but we all know damn well its hard to listen when you're hurting. When you're in pain. When you think of all the "I could of done this, I could of done that". All the thinking on reasons why you got didnt get in & others did. Comparing yourself. Degrading yourself. Looking at yourself in such a negative way. I can say I understand & know exactly where you're coming from. That dark place full of pain and hurt and regrets and questions. Was I not good enough? Was I not smart enough? Was I not that involved? Etc. Im not here to tell you to stop crying over rejections, cos shit im still crying. Im not telling you to build a bridge and get over it, cos im definitely not. But, all i can say is that its not the end of the world. Hell yeah it feels like you wanna die and fall off the face of the earth after the rejections, especially from your dream school. But what now? Theres really no one that can tell you to stop crying and complaining becase THEY dont KNOW how you feel even if they got rejected too. Theres a reason for everything right? Theres a reason why you're upset or crying. Those people dont understand or feel the significance a certain college had to you. They dont know you like you do. They dont know what you want like you do. They dont know what you look for in a college like you do. Im not saying dont listen to them because those people are being great friends & trying to help you, advise you, motivate you, pick you off of your feet and help you move forward because they want you to be happy & care about you. Im saying, dont feel like its the end of the world. We all say that we feel like it is, I say it all the time, but we cant go back. We cant fix things. We cant rewind and go back into the past. Whether you got into the school you wanted or not, you have to make a choice. Itll be hard because it may not be ideal, but you have to make a choice & move forward. Theres no rush, you have around a month. But really look at the schools you got into in a brighter light. Look at the pros. Not the cons. Or else youll go no where. Think, "Will I be happy here?" Honestly, YOU WILL BE HAPPY. You're not gonna be miserable wherever you go, unless YOU CHOOSE to be. Thats your choice so its on you how you want college to be. As cliche and repetitive as this may sound "College is what you make of it". It is. It's what WE make of it. Dont let a TITLE (UC, CSU, PRIVATE, CC) define you. ITS A MF TITLE. It's not who you are. You can go anywhere and still have a great time as long as you choose to. I can name all colleges all over the place, & in my perspective no one is more smarter or more successful than someone else just cause of the title of the school they go to. You can be as equally intelligent and a world changer just as the person who got into your dream school, you just didnt get in & they did. Thats the only difference. As depressing as it sounds of not getting in, that doesnt mean you cant achieve more, be more, and do more. And its the degree, its how hard you work, its your efforts, time, dedication & motivation to be successful. Dont think that just cause you didnt get anywhere you go autopilot for the rest of your life and say "Eff grades, I give up on being involved, why even bother trying etc". CAUSE THAT IS BULLSHIT. Sorry to be blunt, but dont give up on yourself & your potential. Dont give up on what you've been doing and your passions because of not getting into a particular school. Dont just rage quit. If you want to, go for it, I dont encourage it, but its your life choice. TAKE WHAT YOU HAVE AND MAKE THE BEST OUT OF IT. Suck it up. Trust me, I know to those of you who are close to me, Ill be sad for pretty long, but that doesnt mean ill give up & just sit back & say eff everything. I have to make a decision in may& whatever that is, I plan on making the best of it & you should too. Complain & cry all you want because Ill do it with you, but sooner or later we'll have to stop, make a decision & realize that we've got to move forward, continue to strive for success, make the best of what we have & look at things in a brighter more optimistic perspective. You're amazing, lol cheesy, cliche, but yeah you are so fricken fabulous. Keep doing you, keep loving you, keep being you. Maybe I'll get a career as a motivational speaker... LOL.
Well you know what, here's some hopefully motivation for everyone else.
So fucking what. What? I said it. I know its hard to believe ANYONE that says "your college doesnt define you & what you're capable of, etc". Yeah, they're right but we all know damn well its hard to listen when you're hurting. When you're in pain. When you think of all the "I could of done this, I could of done that". All the thinking on reasons why you got didnt get in & others did. Comparing yourself. Degrading yourself. Looking at yourself in such a negative way. I can say I understand & know exactly where you're coming from. That dark place full of pain and hurt and regrets and questions. Was I not good enough? Was I not smart enough? Was I not that involved? Etc. Im not here to tell you to stop crying over rejections, cos shit im still crying. Im not telling you to build a bridge and get over it, cos im definitely not. But, all i can say is that its not the end of the world. Hell yeah it feels like you wanna die and fall off the face of the earth after the rejections, especially from your dream school. But what now? Theres really no one that can tell you to stop crying and complaining becase THEY dont KNOW how you feel even if they got rejected too. Theres a reason for everything right? Theres a reason why you're upset or crying. Those people dont understand or feel the significance a certain college had to you. They dont know you like you do. They dont know what you want like you do. They dont know what you look for in a college like you do. Im not saying dont listen to them because those people are being great friends & trying to help you, advise you, motivate you, pick you off of your feet and help you move forward because they want you to be happy & care about you. Im saying, dont feel like its the end of the world. We all say that we feel like it is, I say it all the time, but we cant go back. We cant fix things. We cant rewind and go back into the past. Whether you got into the school you wanted or not, you have to make a choice. Itll be hard because it may not be ideal, but you have to make a choice & move forward. Theres no rush, you have around a month. But really look at the schools you got into in a brighter light. Look at the pros. Not the cons. Or else youll go no where. Think, "Will I be happy here?" Honestly, YOU WILL BE HAPPY. You're not gonna be miserable wherever you go, unless YOU CHOOSE to be. Thats your choice so its on you how you want college to be. As cliche and repetitive as this may sound "College is what you make of it". It is. It's what WE make of it. Dont let a TITLE (UC, CSU, PRIVATE, CC) define you. ITS A MF TITLE. It's not who you are. You can go anywhere and still have a great time as long as you choose to. I can name all colleges all over the place, & in my perspective no one is more smarter or more successful than someone else just cause of the title of the school they go to. You can be as equally intelligent and a world changer just as the person who got into your dream school, you just didnt get in & they did. Thats the only difference. As depressing as it sounds of not getting in, that doesnt mean you cant achieve more, be more, and do more. And its the degree, its how hard you work, its your efforts, time, dedication & motivation to be successful. Dont think that just cause you didnt get anywhere you go autopilot for the rest of your life and say "Eff grades, I give up on being involved, why even bother trying etc". CAUSE THAT IS BULLSHIT. Sorry to be blunt, but dont give up on yourself & your potential. Dont give up on what you've been doing and your passions because of not getting into a particular school. Dont just rage quit. If you want to, go for it, I dont encourage it, but its your life choice. TAKE WHAT YOU HAVE AND MAKE THE BEST OUT OF IT. Suck it up. Trust me, I know to those of you who are close to me, Ill be sad for pretty long, but that doesnt mean ill give up & just sit back & say eff everything. I have to make a decision in may& whatever that is, I plan on making the best of it & you should too. Complain & cry all you want because Ill do it with you, but sooner or later we'll have to stop, make a decision & realize that we've got to move forward, continue to strive for success, make the best of what we have & look at things in a brighter more optimistic perspective. You're amazing, lol cheesy, cliche, but yeah you are so fricken fabulous. Keep doing you, keep loving you, keep being you. Maybe I'll get a career as a motivational speaker... LOL.
College Book
This goes out to seniors that have already committed to a college & for underclassmen.
"Don't judge a book by it's cover". That cliche line comes into play for almost anything and everything. Example: People. Don't judge a person without really getting to know them for who they are. Don't assume. Don't jump to conclusions.
Well, don't judge a college by it's title. Seriously. Community College, State School, UC, Private. What do they all have in common? Education, people. Each school has something that makes them unique, distinct, special in their own way. But that does not mean that someone who goes to a CC is not as intelligent or will not be as successful as someone who attends a private school. Yes, there are stereotypes for colleges, but it's your choice to believe them. And I for one, don't. There could be differences in how "high" their education is, what their classes are like, what opportunities and classes they offer, but wherever you go, you should be happy. You will never and should never go to a school because other people expect you to go there. If people expect you to go to a school and you didn't get in, it's not the end of the world. You didn't get in for a reason. It's not because you aren't smart enough, you aren't that involved, you aren't good enough. You may not have been fit for that school, you may have thought that that school was perfect for you, or you may not have actually been happy if you attended that school. Where you go shouldn't define your potential and capability. Be proud of where you go no matter what "level" of education they offer. Take what you are given, tackle any opportunity head on, and make the best out of it. Everyone says "College is what you make of it" and though I still have yet to attend college, they're right. It's what you make of it. Everyone generally has a dream or ideal school that they long to attend. But, at the end of the day, you will be going where you are going, and you have to accept that with an open mind & heart. It may be tough, it may be a struggle, it may be difficult to transition, but if you go into that school with such a negative mindset you will go no where, and what "you made of college" is a mess, a hole that you'll struggle to dig out of. If you already have that mindset of not being excited or straight up not really willing to go to the school you committed to, why in the world did you even commit then? You have wasted their time, your time, your parents time, your parents hard work and effort, and the time of those who have educated you, supported you, and have been there for you. Ah yes, I know that sometimes there really isn't a choice, and you basically are forced to go to a certain school because...well you have no other option. I can imagine it sucks. But, what I can say is to build a bridge and get over it. Ha, sounds ridiculous right? But seriously, GET OVER IT. DEAL WITH IT. BE MATURE ABOUT IT. ACCEPT IT. There's nothing else you can do but make the best of it. Don't bash, ridicule, or look down on someone because they may not be going to a school at the same education "level" as you or does not offer the same programs and opportunities. Who do you think you are? If you are doing that, well I guess you need to learn some respect and manners. Don't judge the school or the person because YOU AREN'T ATTENDING THAT SCHOOL, and i don't care how much you know that school, i don't care about the rumors or stereotypes you have heard, i don't care if you have researched a lot about that school, you need to respect the decisions of your peers. You may not like it, you may not agree, but it's their life not yours. It's their decision, not yours. Who knows? Maybe that person who attended a CC over a Private will be the boss of every student that attended a Private school. I'm not calling a specific rank of college out, but I'm just saying things like this are unpredictable so we shouldn't assume in general. Who knows? Maybe the valedictorian of your class decides to go to a State even if offered on a full ride to any UC out there. Will you judge them? NO. Will you think they're stupid for their decision? NO. They have a reason for their decision, so back off. Who knows? Maybe the student ranked 600/600 in your senior class is going to some prestigious college. Will you go around talking crap? NO. Will you tell that person or other people that that person didn't deserve to get in? NO. Things happen for a reason, colleges make their decisions for a reason. They take who they want, and all we can do is accept it. You know your potential, you know your work ethics, you know what you can handle, you know what you are capable of, you know your hopes, dreams, goals & aspirations, you know you the best. Go where you believe you will fit in, be happy, and make the best of every moment in college. Don't let a title sway your decision. Don't let others influence your decision no matter how hard it is for you to decide. Trust yourself, your heart, your mind. At the end of the day your future is in your hands, so take control of it.
"Don't judge a book by it's cover". That cliche line comes into play for almost anything and everything. Example: People. Don't judge a person without really getting to know them for who they are. Don't assume. Don't jump to conclusions.
Well, don't judge a college by it's title. Seriously. Community College, State School, UC, Private. What do they all have in common? Education, people. Each school has something that makes them unique, distinct, special in their own way. But that does not mean that someone who goes to a CC is not as intelligent or will not be as successful as someone who attends a private school. Yes, there are stereotypes for colleges, but it's your choice to believe them. And I for one, don't. There could be differences in how "high" their education is, what their classes are like, what opportunities and classes they offer, but wherever you go, you should be happy. You will never and should never go to a school because other people expect you to go there. If people expect you to go to a school and you didn't get in, it's not the end of the world. You didn't get in for a reason. It's not because you aren't smart enough, you aren't that involved, you aren't good enough. You may not have been fit for that school, you may have thought that that school was perfect for you, or you may not have actually been happy if you attended that school. Where you go shouldn't define your potential and capability. Be proud of where you go no matter what "level" of education they offer. Take what you are given, tackle any opportunity head on, and make the best out of it. Everyone says "College is what you make of it" and though I still have yet to attend college, they're right. It's what you make of it. Everyone generally has a dream or ideal school that they long to attend. But, at the end of the day, you will be going where you are going, and you have to accept that with an open mind & heart. It may be tough, it may be a struggle, it may be difficult to transition, but if you go into that school with such a negative mindset you will go no where, and what "you made of college" is a mess, a hole that you'll struggle to dig out of. If you already have that mindset of not being excited or straight up not really willing to go to the school you committed to, why in the world did you even commit then? You have wasted their time, your time, your parents time, your parents hard work and effort, and the time of those who have educated you, supported you, and have been there for you. Ah yes, I know that sometimes there really isn't a choice, and you basically are forced to go to a certain school because...well you have no other option. I can imagine it sucks. But, what I can say is to build a bridge and get over it. Ha, sounds ridiculous right? But seriously, GET OVER IT. DEAL WITH IT. BE MATURE ABOUT IT. ACCEPT IT. There's nothing else you can do but make the best of it. Don't bash, ridicule, or look down on someone because they may not be going to a school at the same education "level" as you or does not offer the same programs and opportunities. Who do you think you are? If you are doing that, well I guess you need to learn some respect and manners. Don't judge the school or the person because YOU AREN'T ATTENDING THAT SCHOOL, and i don't care how much you know that school, i don't care about the rumors or stereotypes you have heard, i don't care if you have researched a lot about that school, you need to respect the decisions of your peers. You may not like it, you may not agree, but it's their life not yours. It's their decision, not yours. Who knows? Maybe that person who attended a CC over a Private will be the boss of every student that attended a Private school. I'm not calling a specific rank of college out, but I'm just saying things like this are unpredictable so we shouldn't assume in general. Who knows? Maybe the valedictorian of your class decides to go to a State even if offered on a full ride to any UC out there. Will you judge them? NO. Will you think they're stupid for their decision? NO. They have a reason for their decision, so back off. Who knows? Maybe the student ranked 600/600 in your senior class is going to some prestigious college. Will you go around talking crap? NO. Will you tell that person or other people that that person didn't deserve to get in? NO. Things happen for a reason, colleges make their decisions for a reason. They take who they want, and all we can do is accept it. You know your potential, you know your work ethics, you know what you can handle, you know what you are capable of, you know your hopes, dreams, goals & aspirations, you know you the best. Go where you believe you will fit in, be happy, and make the best of every moment in college. Don't let a title sway your decision. Don't let others influence your decision no matter how hard it is for you to decide. Trust yourself, your heart, your mind. At the end of the day your future is in your hands, so take control of it.
Opportunities
Take every opportunity that comes your way. Don't hold back and don't miss out. I feel like this is most important when it comes to the people we encounter within our lifetime. Take every opportunity to meet someone new, to get to know someone, and to create strong bonds and friendships. Don't just blow people off or miss out being friends with someone because they look intimidating or like someone you don't think would be "cool enough" or some lame and stupid thing like that. TAKE EVERY OPPORTUNITY. There are so many amazing people out there, but you won't find out until you try to get to know people. Honestly, I feel like thats somewhere I feel successful. Despite the many differences of the people I have encountered in life, I didn't even try missing out on taking the opportunity to get to know someone. But, I feel like I wish I took on more opportunities, but with that I am motivated to meet and get to know more of the amazing people out there. The leaders. The world changers. The inspirations. The good. The bad. So, with that, really, take the time to meet new people because who knows? That person may influence you the most, help shape who you are or will become, can change your life, etc. I am so blessed to have met so many people who have done that, and more. I can say that life is great, because of the people who have been, are in, and will be in my life. Thank you all so much for the amazing experiences and memories. San Leandro High School Class of 2014, you are filled with amazing individuals that I know for a fact will make a major impact on others' lives and the world. I was just blessed enough to get to know and be a part of a beyond extraordinary class of over 600 students.
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